I know I have also been guilty of this.
So let me announce right now:
Let 2009 be the year, my friends, be the year in which, if I offer to help you... you say "YES please!", and tell me what I can do. Then I will tell you if I can do that thing. If I can't I promise to tell you that it won't work for me, and I will suggest something that will work for both of us.. or I will suck it up and do it for you anyway because that's what we should do sometimes. I want to help you. I want to be there. It is easy. And if we all take care of each other we will get through all of it, the sick kids, the bad plumbing, the out of control behavior, the food poisoning, the "I have nothing in my fridge.", the "my babysitter cancelled for the third day in a row." We can do this... together.
p.s. and I also promise to ask my husband, or at least tell him before I embark on any major aide.